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ISBN: 9781925581553
215 x 137 mm
142 pp
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Broken Bonds: Surrogate Mothers Speak Out
Jennifer Lahl, Melinda Tankard Reist, Renate Klein (ed.)
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Celebrity couple Kim Kardashian and Kanye West and their sweet new baby Chicago. Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black and their cute little baby Robert. And thousands of other couples and single people around the world who obtain babies through surrogacy arrangements. The general public is compassionate to their plight and supportive of their 'right' to a baby.

But who are the faceless, nameless women who nurture and give birth to these babies? These women who are left with empty arms and leaking breasts after delivery? Surrogacy-dealing companies call them ‘special angels’ who ‘make miracles possible’, giving ‘an extraordinary gift’. IVF clinics call them ‘gestational surrogates’. The intended parents have promised them healthcare, full reimbursement, and ongoing contact with the baby. What could possibly go wrong?

Everything. Because surrogacy violates the human rights of the women whose bodies are used, and the children who are born. Because it is a fundamentally flawed and misogynist concept to imagine that women are interchangeable. And it is wishful thinking that watertight legal contracts and counselling can fix this.

In this book, strong and courageous women from the USA, the UK, Canada, Australia, India, Austria and Russia share their true stories of becoming 'surrogate' mothers out of kindness and compassion (or need for money), only to be deceived, neglected, abused, harassed, or abandoned by ‘baby buyers’, clinics, and lawyers. Their stories are tragic, shocking, and revelatory of a profit-driven industry that preys on desperation and women’s compassion. 

It becomes clear that it is not the occasional dysfunctional relationship or unreasonable surrogate causing problems in the surrogacy industry. Rather, it is the very nature of surrogacy as well as the surrogacy industry to use and abuse and discard. This book throws down a challenge to Big Fertility and its minions: women are not ovens or suitcases, babies are not products. Love is not to be bought.

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Table of Contents

Introduction - Jennifer Lahl, Melinda Tankard Reist, Renate Klein

Signing the Paper in Blood -  Cathy (Canada)
Cathy agrees to be a ‘surrogate’ for a gay couple- and almost loses her life after giving birth to three premature babies.

The Biggest Mistake of My Life - Oxana (Georgia)
As told to Eva-Maria Bachinger, Oxana thinks that surrogacy will give her a chance to earn money, but then faces the devastation of surrendering a daughter with whom she has established a close bond.

Anonymous No More: How I was Groomed to be a Multiple Egg Donor - Maggie (USA)
As a naive 21 year old, Maggie was an easy target for a ruthless egg donor recruiter, unaware of the health risks entailed. She is now paying the consequences of years of donation, facing terminal breast cancer.

Once they found out I didn’t have the perfect baby, I was disposable - Britni (USA)
After four children of her own, Britni becomes a surrogate to help a couple, but when the twins that result are found to have abnormalities, she is pressured to abort and left to fend for herself as she faces psychological and physical trauma.

No Right to Know - Natascha (Russia)
As told to Eva-Maria Bachinger Natascha bought a car with the money earned from surrogacy but cannot say how much. She had no say in who the parents of the baby would be, no control over contact with the child, and no idea what has happened to the eggs she donated.

Bitter Family Ties: Will I ever see my son again? - Odette Lees (Australia)
Odette Lees acts as a ‘surrogate’ for her cousin but the agreement goes wrong almost from the start and ends in a protracted battle in the courts as she strives to maintain contact with the child as was promised to her.

When My Surrogacy Became My Nightmare - Denise (USA)
Surrogacy for a Chinese couple goes wrong when twins are born, and one is the genetic child of the surrogate’s partner and is not Chinese.

I am an Incubator - Natalia (Russia)
Natalia relocates to Moscow to be a ‘surrogate’ for a wealthy Russian couple, and wants it all to be over as soon as possible to resume her own life-with some much-needed money.

Exploited, Lied to, Financially Ruined and Devastated - Kelly (USA)
Kelly undergoes surrogacy three times for two couples overseas and one in the USA- and ends up almost dying in childbirth and PTSD as a result.

Surrogacy Broke Up Our Family - Rob (Australia)-partner of a ‘surrogate’
When Bev agrees to be a surrogate for an acquaintance, she has no idea of the ongoing difficulties that will be faced by her and Rob as they strive to maintain a semblance of a normal life.

‘My Heart is Hurting’ – the stories of Ujwala, Dimpy and Sarala as told by Sheela Saravanan (India/Germany)
Ethnographer Sheela Saravanan tells the heartbreaking stories of three poor Indian women. They needed the money but didn’t know surrogacy would hurt them so much.

Messing with my Body, Messing with my Mind - Marie Anne (UK)
Marie Anne wants to help her cousin have a baby, but not only does surrogacy destroy their relationship, it results in Marie Anne losing her career, and her own children too, because her mental health is destroyed by the process.

Surrogacy is business - Elena (Romania)
For Elena surrogacy is a chance to put food on the table and eke out a living.

Left Alone with Exploding Breasts and an Exploding Heart - Michelle (USA)
It is only after being a surrogate four times that Rachel realises that striving for money and self-fulfillment through surrogacy is a delusion.

A 'Selfless' Donor - Viktoria (Hungary)
Viktoria has donated over 70 eggs and knows little of the result, besides that two girls have been born. This knowledge brings her a mixture of joy and despair, coupled with the health problems she is now facing as a result of her donations.

When Good Intentions were met with Racism and Hate -
Toni (USA)
When Toni, a black American woman, acts as a ‘surrogate’ for a white couple, she realises, too late, that the child she is carrying will be growing up in a house full of hate.

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