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Slut But But
By: Susan Hawthorne
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I’m a slut
but but
but I’m not I’m not
I’m a slot
I’m a slut
but but
what what could it mean
am I a slut?
but but
he said you’re a slut
he said look at your butt
you’re a slut
I said
but but
she said she’s a slut
no buts about it
just a slut
all smut
they all said she’s a slut
no doubt about it
but but I said
I said but
I’m no slut
I’m no slit for your bit
I’m not here for you
so fuck off and stop doin me in
he said but but
no slut here
no fear
he said but but
she said but but
they said but but
I’m not the butt of your names
your words are not my words
no fuckin way
so shut up
I’m no slut
I’m no slut walker
I’m a walker but bein a walker
don’t make me no slut
so butt out
get outta my mind
I’ll think what I want
I’ll do what I want
I’ll walk at 3 am if I want
I’ll wear big boots and kick butt
I’ll cut my hair short
I’ll leave it long
but I won’t do pussy on the street
because I’m not here for you
you pussy stalker
cos I’m no slut
you say but but
you look like a slut
you must be a slut
if you’re out a 3 am
if you don’t look girlie
you must be a fuckin feminist
they’re all sluts
that’s what they are
and I say
you got it boy
you got it girl
I’m a feminist
now fuck off
I’m no slut
d’you hear
try again
I’m no slut
they all said but but
© Susan Hawthorne, 2011
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By Spinifex Press Intern Jacalyn Tennant
I had to read this twice as I was appalled by the story on The Age website suggesting adultery can save a marriage. This idea, sparked by Catherine Hakim, a British social scientist and bestselling author, explains the faithful as ‘caged animals’ who need to be set free. Now, fair to say, I am not married and may not be the best woman to discuss the perfect marriage. I also refuse to believe however that this is what I will have to look forward to. Where ‘I do’s’ and ‘You’ll do’s’ become the marital and sexual norm.
This story comes not long after the Catholic Church declaring women are too picky and should just choose Mr. Good Enough or else face missing out. I do not recall a rule book that quoted women had to be married to be successful or, more importantly, happy. I do not believe as women, or any person for that matter, lowering expectations or settling for less than we deserve ever worked out in our benefit. I cannot see then how getting married only to have numerous affairs is ever going to be the answer.
Having secret lovers without fear of divorce has never been the dream for me, just as I suspect is the case for many women. Since when was spending life with one person so terrible? Seems that as our society becomes more and more sexualised, our sense of morals and self respect seem to fly away with the lengths of material taken off the bottom of skirts and tops. The way some things become ‘traditional’ may possibly be because they work. A faithful marriage may not seem ‘hip’ in this sexy world, but I for one couldn’t dream of it any other way.
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By Helen Lobato As editor-in-chief and founder of WikiLeaks, Julian Assange receives his Ecuadorian asylum, feminists seek justice for the two women at the centre of the sexual assault allegations against the high profile whistleblower. But author Naomi Wolf claims that Britain and Sweden are using the issue for political purposes. Wolf asserts that for the tens of thousands of women who have been raped in wars; as workers in the sex industry; as victims of date rape and of domestic violence – who are still waiting for justice, this response by Sweden to the allegations made by Anna Ardin and Sophia Wilen ‘is a slap in the face’. According to the ABC’s Four Corners program Sex, Lies and Julian Assange both Anna Ardin (left) and Sophia Wilen (right) had sexual intercourse with Assange ‘the cyber-celebrity’ while he was in Stockholm in 2009. Ardin told a friend that she had a “wild weekend” with Assange: “I was proud as hell to get the world’s coolest man in bed and living in my apartment.” She later informed police that Assange had violently pinned her down and ignored her requests to use a condom. Assange has denied this. Assange spent several days staying with Anna in her Stockholm apartment before having sex with Sofia Wilen, another admirer. The sex might have been consensual but Assange had again refused to use a condom causing Wilen concern about the possibility of an STD. Fearing infection she contacted her friend Anna Ardin and the pair sought police advice to see if Assange could be forced to undergo a blood test. Although no charges were filed against Assange, the police believing some sort of sex crime had been committed, issued a warrant for his arrest.
Swedish radio personality Helene Bergman writes:
“In the 1970s we feminists fought for our right to lust and sexuality, not to make men criminals but so we could enjoy sex together with them. In addition we learned to trust our own survival instincts. Our own ability to assert a ‘no’, to stand our ground.”
Bergman again:
“So let me stick out my feminist chin and state that after having read the protocol that at least the two women who filed charges against him have no knowledge of men’s sexuality and/or were blinded by Assange’s rock star status and halo. When it was later discovered he was an ordinary man in bed, their disappointment was too heavy to bear and then came the revenge instead and the women went to the police.”
Assange as ‘an ordinary man in bed’ was in control, refusing to wear a condom and failing to respond to a change in the vital area of consent. So much for equality feminism: the right to have sex with whoever and whenever and be over whelmed and attracted by powerful and prominent patriarchal men. Whether the women were sexually assaulted by Assange is yet to be decided but what needs to be part of a wider discussion is why men rape and that conversation must begin with an understanding of our patriarchal society. Patriarchy gives men the power and the excuse to control and dominate women and such behaviours lead to rape. First published Allthenewsthatmatters
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By: Danielle Binks
You know the one thing that’s more insulting than blatantly sexist/misogynistic advertising?
Advertising that touts pseudo-feminism but sends the exact same bigoted message, only cloaking it in women’s liberation to soften the blow.
Take the new ad from Triumph Lingerie Australia, for example. The ad’s tagline reads ‘Welcome to the Republic of Triumph’ and asks women to declare themselves. The associated image is rather epic – featuring lingerie-clad women marching and waving Mao-ish red flags while holding protest signs aloft. One of the signs reads “It’s my right to have a career and a baby” while another declares “It’s my right to smash the glass ceiling.”
Except the ad’s attempt at appealing to our feminist souls is an epic fail, because the women featured are not only perfectly perky and seriously skinny, they’re also airbrushed to the nth degree and look decidedly plastic and flawless. They are entirely, disturbingly unreal.
The Triumph ‘feminist’ message that sits alongside its contradictory content is awful, but by no means is it the first time a company has hidden misogynistic agendas behind pseudo-feminist armour.
Take the Dove real beauty campaign, for example. The toiletries company claims to be about advertising images of women with real bodies, of all ages who are ethnically diverse. An admirable effort.
But their ‘real beauty’ campaign is utterly hollow, when Dove is owned by Unilever who sell such patriarchal products like ‘Fair and Lovely’ skin-lightening cream (which is particularly popular in India where women are made to feel that the lighter their skin, the more beautiful they’ll be).
Or how about everyone’s favourite (insert sarcasm) athletic company, Nike? For a little while there they actually churned out some (surprisingly, begrudgingly) good and powerful ads that portrayed famous sportswomen not as sex symbols, but as the tough athletes they are in the feminist ‘Rock Victorious’ campaign of 2010.
But any ground Nike gained with women has been lost after their EPIC FAIL in releasing a Gold Digging t-shirt to ‘celebrate’ the fact that female athletes bought home 29 of Team USA’s 46 gold medals at the London Olympic Games.
If that t-shirt was Nike’s attempt at showing support for their female athletes, then we’d prefer they Just Not Do It.
But, back to the Triumph Australia ad and its ‘Declare Yourself’ feminist message alongside contradictory models. The height of irony is that one of the models is waving a sign that says “It’s my right to feel good about myself” – so we hope women looking at this ad take a moment to note the wrinkle-free, no-bulge-in-sight, big-breasted (airbrushed) models in their bras and undies and Declare themselves unimpressed with this faux-feminism marketing campaign.
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'' Dear Target, Could you possibly make a range of clothing for girls7-14 years that doesn't make them look like tramps … You have lost me as a customer when buying apparel for my daughter as I don't want her thinking shorts up her backside are the norm or fashionable.'' This social media posting made by Port Macquarie mother and primary school teacher Ana Amini has reunited the debate over the hypersexualisation of young girls.  ‘ What are the Risks of Premature Sexualisation for Children?’ by Emma Rush for ‘ Getting Real: Challenging the Sexualisation of Girls’ [A] cultural process that sexualises children is relatively new. It involves sexualising products being sold specifically for children, and children themselves being presented in images or directed to act in advertisements in ways modelled on adult sexual behaviour (Rush and La Nauze, 2006, p. 1). To describe this process of directly sexualizing children, we have adopted a phrase first used by Phillip Adams:‘corporate paedophilia.’ Sexualising products are products linked to cultural norms of sexual attractiveness. Such products were previously reserved for teenagers and adults but are now sold directly to girls of primary school age, for example, bras, platform shoes, lip gloss, fake nails, and so on. Advertising for these products shows clearly that they are no longer being sold for ‘creative dress-ups’ purposes, as they may have been in previous decades. Rather, they are marketed as products to wear on a daily basis, to get ‘the look’ that is sold to primary school aged children, despite concern from parents and professionals in child health and welfare. What look is that? ‘Hot.’ So today’s children are not only exposed to hypersexualised adult culture, but are also directly sold the idea that they should look ‘hot’—not later, but now. This means that today’s children are facing sexualising pressure quite unlike anything faced by children in the past. What risks might children face as a result of such pressure?
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